Women confuse me
I like women. A lot. I like how they look, smell, feel, and yeah, taste.... I also have shitty luck with women.
So, I am, in my opinion, at best a 4, chubby, and old. I have had my share of women in my life, married multiple times (the last for 20 years) and quite honestly really try not to be an asshole.
I know when to apply my filter and always treat women with respect. But after the initial get to know you phase and/or the initial "lets fuck" stage, they tend to change dramatically.
I am fairly direct most of the time. If I am interested in someone, I generally say so. If I want to see someone, I ask. If I don't understand something, I ask about it. And yes, I tend to assume that communication is for reducing ambiguity.
My latest adventure is a woman who I met for a platonic cuddle. It turned into her being very much into me and then the loss of clothing. OK, cool.
But now it's been mostly radio silence. I get an occasional response to "how's it going?" but if I even mention the possibility of getting together...crickets.
She even said she was sorry and had some things going on and the she "adored me"... OK, I get it that is some kind of communication. But for someone who says they adore me and then doesn't even reply (yes OR no) about getting together says two diametrically different things, in my mind anyway.
I'd rather hear "I can't this week I have a lot going on" than nothing. I at least know where I stand right now. I might not like it, but my anxiety of texting her to death would end because the uncertainty would be mostly eliminated.
Clarity and Communication.
It really is that simple. But I suppose that is not how modern women work.