Whatever... Send the hate...
This is a rant... a venting session... it is a raw view of how I am feeling today and have for the past 5 years.
There is no place for average, mature, middle-class men in the world of relationships these days. Few, if any, women have any use for us. Regardless of whether we are nice, funny, talented, smart, trustworthy, loyal, or dependable. We are tossed to the side, sometimes used until we are no longer needed, served our purpose, or start to declare our own needs.
The cold, hard facts are that unless an older man is fit, wealthy, and handsome, he has no real chance at companionship with modern women. Women of all walks of life have become so obsessed with their self-worth that they ignore or are just downright rude about a man's needs beyond their own.
It doesn't matter at all about their looks or personality. They simply view the fact that they are women and have the sexual power over what men typically want (meaning tits, ass, and pussy) that they feel entitled to wealthy, fit, attractive men and that any other man is out of his league for even thinking of trying to connect.
Don't get me wrong, I understand every man and woman has preferences. I understand that some people are, for lack of a nice way to put it, shallow. But it has gone beyond that. Dating sites, hookup sites, etc., are for the young, the beautiful, and the wealthy people... and for pretty much women from all walks of life.
Men? Yeah, unless we look good and have the means and will to spoil them, we will not get very far with the women of the modern world. Oh, they talk the good talk about wanting nice guys... bullshit... there are so many nice guys in the world, and yet these women ALWAYS choose the ones who are shitty because money and looks mean more.
I already hear the hate. I don't fucking care. I have experienced this first hand, repeatedly over the past 5 years, and it is always the same. It must be my fault. Yeah, whatever.
I have been gainfully employed my entire life. I have never been in jail, never been involved in any sort of abuse, raised my kids to be productive members of society, pay my bills, I'm educated, believe in treating another human the way I would want to be treated, and do everything I can to communicate with my partner.
Doesn't matter. I'm just an old fuck whose only way of having a connection with a woman is to pay for it. Forget a meaningful connection. Everything is transactional. She wants all her needs filled. Yeah, well, as long as you keep her happy with trinkets, arm candy, status, and can fuck her multiple times a day, she'll hang around. But you? Once you've served your purpose or are unable to serve her purpose, you are discarded.
Again, this is a rant... and reading as I type, I can feel the hate, the push-back, the name-calling.
But I am tired. I am frustrated. I mostly feel like I am not asking for much. Communication. Conversation. Consistency. Affection. Reliability. Presence.
But, yeah, I don't fit what women really want. Some are very clear about what they want... and it is exactly what I described earlier. Others, I think I fit their description that they tell themselves they want, but when the relationship starts to go beyond a date or two, they realize those things aren't enough. They want those other things.
I understand preferences. But when preferences become the societal standard, the end result is that a section of the human population will get lonelier, isolated, more discouraged, and hateful.
And that is not good for men or women.