Double standards on desires
I find it telling of the double standard in the world today when it comes to the desires of the two sexes.
Women of any shape or form are praised when they clearly state that their preference in men begins with something like, "fit guys" or "hot guys" or "attractive guys" and then get on with their other requirements.
Men, however, get raked against the coals if they even hint at that sort of preference anywhere in their description of a desired partner.
Doesn't matter if she is fat, ugly, fit, built like a goddess, she gets a pass when wanting that modern Adonis. But men never get that pass, regardless of what they look like. We're considered shallow, objectifying, unrealistic, and entitled.
This isn't just a few women. This is a lot of modern women. While I am sure some of the @Whatever Podcast is staged, it is not far off from what is apparent on modern dating websites. Full of entitled women who have unrealistic views of their worth as well as their entitlement to the modern Adonis male.
Consider two hypothetical people.
A woman rates herself a 10 and says she will only date or have sex with a man who is six feet tall, earns $200,000, is physically fit, and has an excellent personality.
A man rates himself a 10 and says he wants a beautiful woman with a great body. But he is willing to date or have sex with a woman who doesn't entirely fit his ideal.
Men’s focus on looks is commonly called shallow or objectifying. Women’s requirements around height and income are more often framed as “having standards” or “knowing her worth.” A reasonable conclusion is that she’s at least as shallow as he is, and quite arguably more so, because she has more surface criteria and won’t bend on any of them.
But society is blind to that and men are the ones left having to justify their desires and preferences.